Chinese Bamboo – A Love Story

I want to share a story with you that always inspires me whenever I feel like I want to create a change that I haven’t seen in a while. And it’s the story of the Chinese bamboo. Perhaps you’ve heard this story. And the way that Chinese bamboo grows, when you plant this seed, if you take really good care of it and you carry the water and you water this seed and you give it the right amount of light and dark, after the first year, it will grow two inches, just this tiny amount. The second year, if you take really good care of this plant, bringing the water, watering this plant, giving it the right amount of light, the right amount of dark, the second year it will grow two inches.

And you’re looking at this growth over two years or work and you’re thinking, “This isn’t working. This sucks. Like look at that. I’m only getting this little four-inch plant.” The third year, if you keep the faith, if you stay with this and you carry the water, haul that water, water it, give it the right amount of light and dark, again, if there’s any growth at all, it will grow about two inches. The fourth year, you haul that water, you stay focused, you pour the water in. Again, if there’s any growth at all, it’s about two inches.

And so now you’re looking at this tiny plant saying, “I’ve invested four years into this effort and this is what I’ve got.” And for anyone, that would be discouraging. For anyone, that would feel like this hopeless effort. But when understand the law of how this growth works, it can fuel your desire to ultimately create the result that you want because, on year five, if you keep hauling that water and you keep nurturing this plant, in year five, within six weeks, this plant will grow 80 feet. It will skyrocket up. Now, most people leave the story there when they’re telling the story, they’re understanding the story. Most people don’t understand what’s happening with this plant all along the way. Most people think that the plant actually accelerates its growth in year five. But after researching this, I’ve discovered it doesn’t. In fact, the plant is growing at the same rate the entire five years. “But how could that be?” you might be thinking. Well, that’s because the plant is growing at a rapid rate under the ground. The plant starts with its root system, its rhizome system, shooting out those rhizomes, creating a solid foundation, anchoring itself in the earth so that, in year five, when it shoots up, it can withstand the storm, it can withstand the wind that’s going to hit it, it can withstand the rain that’s going to come its way, it can withstand the challenges that it’s going to face when it’s 80 feet in the air.

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Ignore society

One of the most important principles for choosing a lover sensibly is not to feel in any hurry to make a choice. Being satisfied with being single is a precondition of satisfactory coupledom.

We cannot choose wisely when remaining single feels unbearable we have to be utterly at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship. 

Unfortunately, after a certain age, society makes singlehood feel dangerously unpleasant. Communal life starts to wither. People in couples are too threatened by the independence of the single to invite them around. In case they’re reminded of something they might have missed in friendship and sex. Despite all the gadgets, relationships are still remarkably hard to come by. No wonder when someone’s slightly decent but not quite so comes along, we cling to them to our eventual enormous cost.

When sex was only available within marriage, people recognized that this would lead some people to marry for the wrong reasons to obtain something that was artificially restricted in society. As a whole, sexual liberation was intended to allow people to have a clearer head when choosing who they really wanted to be with but this process remains only half-finished.

Only when we can make sure that being single is as potentially as secure warm and fulfilling as being in a couple will we know that people are choosing to pair up for the right reasons. It’s time to liberate companionship from the shackles of coupledom and make it as widely and easily available as sexual liberators wanted sex to be.

In the meantime, we should strive to make ourselves in as much at peace as we can with the idea of being alone for a very long time. Only then do we stand a chance of deciding to be with someone on the basis of a healthy relationship and connection.

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Finding true love is difficult

When we have a job, a career, and financially carefree, there are still some more important things in life than work. People depend on each other, love each other, and support each other. Without these, life would have become bleak. Ask those who are fed up and always saddened by dates Or those who have dreams and will one day meet the true destiny and join hands for life Regardless of whether they were tired of feelings in their 20s or divorced in their 40s, You will feel that frustration is very normal and ok.

Even so, there are some reasons to encourage them to believe in love again There are five reasons why it is so difficult for you to find true love 

1. You always find love in the wrong place People often say that bars and parties are not good places to find true love But life is not black and white, it is always so absolute. Maybe someone is too anxious to find the right person and take action to get attention And they may be too willing to get attention from the masses, which may make them forget those who really exist in life. If they don’t open their hearts to make friends in bars, parties or other unexpected places May lose some opportunities 

2. You did not give others a chance Because of some embarrassing experiences, people began to refuse to accept opportunities Is it time to ask them what’s wrong? Everyone you really meet is so bad, or are you just looking for reasons for yourself? Sometimes, we prefer to reject others directly rather than admitting that we are afraid and worrying that our expectations will fail.

Maintaining a stable relationship does not mean making an eternal promise or reluctantly accepting someone who is not true love. It just recognizes how many opportunities you let yourself lose. If finding true love is your priority, you will continue to expand your mind. 

3. You haven’t learned to be nice to yourself Some people are very kind, but still meet some bastards to make them sad. A little self-interest can make people see what they care about in the relationship. People who have not learned to love themselves are mostly dependent on their partners, which can easily make the relationship become unhealthy and even pathological.

4. Play comparison games. Is your predecessor still lingering in your mind? People who always compare their predecessor to the current one will have a harder time focusing on the current relationship. Will project too many characteristics of the ex in the current partner. That would not be able to truly recognize the current partner. If you can’t forget your ex and keep reminiscing about the past, then it is not time to start a new relationship.

5. Your time has not come If you are good at self-respect and knowledgeable Then perhaps the time has not come. That doesn’t mean it will never happen. It’s just that it’s not the best time yet. 

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