Ignore society

One of the most important principles for choosing a lover sensibly is not to feel in any hurry to make a choice. Being satisfied with being single is a precondition of satisfactory coupledom.

We cannot choose wisely when remaining single feels unbearable we have to be utterly at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship. 

Unfortunately, after a certain age, society makes singlehood feel dangerously unpleasant. Communal life starts to wither. People in couples are too threatened by the independence of the single to invite them around. In case they’re reminded of something they might have missed in friendship and sex. Despite all the gadgets, relationships are still remarkably hard to come by. No wonder when someone‚Äôs slightly decent but not quite so comes along, we cling to them to our eventual enormous cost.

When sex was only available within marriage, people recognized that this would lead some people to marry for the wrong reasons to obtain something that was artificially restricted in society. As a whole, sexual liberation was intended to allow people to have a clearer head when choosing who they really wanted to be with but this process remains only half-finished.

Only when we can make sure that being single is as potentially as secure warm and fulfilling as being in a couple will we know that people are choosing to pair up for the right reasons. It’s time to liberate companionship from the shackles of coupledom and make it as widely and easily available as sexual liberators wanted sex to be.

In the meantime, we should strive to make ourselves in as much at peace as we can with the idea of being alone for a very long time. Only then do we stand a chance of deciding to be with someone on the basis of a healthy relationship and connection.

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